{"id":4790,"date":"2025-10-29T10:10:43","date_gmt":"2025-10-29T10:10:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/frankrechsteiner.de\/i-wish-id-had-the-courage-to-live-my-own-life\/"},"modified":"2025-10-29T13:11:23","modified_gmt":"2025-10-29T13:11:23","slug":"i-wish-id-had-the-courage-to-live-my-own-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/frankrechsteiner.de\/en\/i-wish-id-had-the-courage-to-live-my-own-life\/","title":{"rendered":"“I wish I’d had the courage to live my own life”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

This sentence moved me deeply and that’s exactly why I’m talking about it in the current episode of Men in Crisis<\/em>.I’m talking about something that affects us all – Courage. Honesty. And the question of whether we are really living our own lives. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n

In the following, I’ll tell you what my mother said shortly before she died:<\/p>\n\n

“I wish I had been able to study and become a teacher.”<\/p>\n\n

No wealth, no great adventures – just an honest, silent desire.That goes deep. Because it shows: In the end, it’s not the expectations of others that count, but what we haven’t allowed ourselves to live<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n

If you know exactly what you need to do… and you don’t have the balls to do it – that’s brutal self-sabotage.<\/p>\n\n

And yes, that’s right. How often do we know exactly what we want to do – and still don’t do it? Because we are afraid, want to please others, often want to be “reasonable”.<\/p>\n\n

But what does this common sense cost us? Perhaps the very life that would have fulfilled us. <\/p>\n\n

To put it in a nutshell: As long as you live in fear, you are maximally manipulable.<\/p>\n\n

I would like to remind you that freedom<\/strong> does not mean doing everything perfectly – but finally being honest<\/strong>:With ourselves, with our needs and with what we really want.<\/p>\n\n

At the end of the conversation I say:<\/p>\n\n

“If you’re not up for an awesome life, then at least be the role model you never had. A role model is not a victim – a role model makes decisions.”<\/p>\n\n

Perhaps that is precisely the point:No more waiting for anything. Stop making excuses and start living your life today<\/strong> – with all its consequences, but also with all its power. <\/p>\n\n

<\/p>\n\n

Question for you:<\/strong>Are you really living your life – or are you still fulfilling other people’s expectations?<\/p>\n\n

https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/7IdEdKoQpcdz4GVxo4CK4N<\/a><\/p>\n\n

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And with Apple Podcasts:<\/p>\n\n

https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/de\/podcast\/046-das-leben-das-du-nicht-gelebt-hast\/id1761337825?i=1000734019213<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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