{"id":5740,"date":"2026-05-06T10:30:00","date_gmt":"2026-05-06T10:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/frankrechsteiner.de\/control-is-an-illusion-and-deep-down-you-know-that-too\/"},"modified":"2026-05-06T14:31:06","modified_gmt":"2026-05-06T14:31:06","slug":"control-is-an-illusion-and-deep-down-you-know-that-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/frankrechsteiner.de\/en\/control-is-an-illusion-and-deep-down-you-know-that-too\/","title":{"rendered":"Control is an illusion &#8211; and deep down you know that too"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>We think we have things under control: job, decisions, people, results. At least that&#8217;s how it feels. And that&#8217;s exactly what gives us security.  <br\/><br\/>But if you&#8217;re honest, it&#8217;s not true.<br\/><br\/>In the new episode of <em>Men in Crisis<\/em>, it quickly becomes clear: control only works as long as nothing unforeseen happens. And that&#8217;s exactly what happens all the time. Numbers change, people react differently, situations change. And suddenly you realize how little you really control.   <br\/><br\/>What is exciting, however, is what lies behind this: This need for control often comes not from strength, but from insecurity. When I try to control everything, I lack trust at the core. In myself, in others, in the process.  <br\/><br\/>This is evident everywhere. In business, when everything has to be approved. In relationships, when you believe you have to lead. Or in everyday life, when you want to hold on to things that can&#8217;t actually be held on to.   <br\/><br\/>And that&#8217;s where it gets interesting: what happens when you let go of that?<br\/><br\/>Not in the sense of &#8220;it doesn&#8217;t matter&#8221;, but rather as a conscious decision. More trust, less control. More openness, less clinging. Suddenly space is created. For other perspectives, for development, for real collaboration.    <br\/><br\/>Perhaps, in the end, it&#8217;s not about gaining more control. It&#8217;s about understanding that you never really had it. <br\/><br\/>New episode <em>Men in crisis<\/em>: about the illusion of control and why trust is often the stronger way.<\/p>\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n<p>Listen to the new episode:<\/p>\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-spotify wp-block-embed-spotify wp-embed-aspect-21-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Spotify Embed: #073 Kontrolle ist eine Illusion - und tief drin wei\u00dft du das\" style=\"border-radius: 12px\" width=\"100%\" height=\"152\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/4UzR5EWr1m1alH5vqr1VLJ?utm_source=oembed\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n<p>And with Apple Podcasts:<\/p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/de\/podcast\/073-kontrolle-ist-eine-illusion-und-tief-drin-wei%C3%9Ft-du-das\/id1761337825?i=1000766404679\">https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/de\/podcast\/073-kontrolle-ist-eine-illusion-und-tief-drin-wei%C3%9Ft-du-das\/id1761337825?i=1000766404679<\/a><br\/><br\/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We think we have things under control: job, decisions, people, results. 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