{"id":6383,"date":"2026-08-26T10:30:00","date_gmt":"2026-08-26T10:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/frankrechsteiner.de\/?p=6383"},"modified":"2026-08-26T18:10:37","modified_gmt":"2026-08-26T18:10:37","slug":"089-why-we-often-prefer-to-stay-unhappy-rather-than-make-a-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/frankrechsteiner.de\/en\/089-why-we-often-prefer-to-stay-unhappy-rather-than-make-a-change\/","title":{"rendered":"#089 &#8211; Why we often prefer to stay unhappy rather than make a change"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In the new episode of <em>Men in Crisis<\/em> we talk about why we often hold on to things that we&#8217;ve long known are no longer good for us.<br\/><br\/>It\u2019s about relationships, jobs, habits, and life situations that have become familiar\u2014and that\u2019s exactly why they\u2019re so hard to let go of. Because change doesn\u2019t just mean ending something old; it also means living with uncertainty and not knowing what comes next.  <br\/><br\/>We&#8217;ll talk about why we often confuse the familiar with certainty, and why the first step toward change is often to honestly acknowledge that something is no longer working.<br\/><br\/>New episode of <em>Men in Crisis<\/em>: on why letting go is so hard and what actually keeps us from taking the next step.<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Feel free to give it a listen:<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-spotify wp-block-embed-spotify wp-embed-aspect-21-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Spotify Embed: #089 Angst vor Ver\u00e4nderung?\" style=\"border-radius: 12px\" width=\"100%\" height=\"152\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/6NIqwzN6gUuKftfsO19Lnd?utm_source=oembed\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And on Apple Podcasts:<br\/><a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/de\/podcast\/089-angst-vor-ver%C3%A4nderung\/id1761337825?i=1000785968317\">https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/de\/podcast\/089-angst-vor-ver%C3%A4nderung\/id1761337825?i=1000785968317<\/a><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the new episode of Men in Crisis we talk about why we often hold on to things that we&#8217;ve long known are no longer good for us. It\u2019s about relationships, jobs, habits, and life situations that have become familiar\u2014and that\u2019s exactly why they\u2019re so hard to let go of. Because change doesn\u2019t just mean [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":6382,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[262],"tags":[856,852,850,854,849,853,855,851],"class_list":["post-6383","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog-en","tag-a-fresh-start","tag-change-in-life","tag-fear-of-change","tag-holding-on-out-of-fear","tag-learning-to-let-go","tag-letting-go-of-unhealthy-relationships","tag-the-courage-to-change","tag-why-letting-go-is-so-hard"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>#089 - Why we often prefer to stay unhappy rather than make a change<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Discover why we cling to unhappy situations and relationships. 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