“I’m so angry!” – And why that can be a gift
We all know them. Those moments when we are seething, when words are like fire on the tip of our tongue, when we want to scream out loud: “I’m so angry!”
Anger is raw. Wild. And often feared. We have learned to suppress it, to minimize it, to push it away. Out of fear, out of insecurity, out of social conditioning. But what if this very emotion is our greatest untapped potential?
Anger is energy – and energy wants to flow
We don’t get angry because we are weak. On the contrary: anger shows that we care. That we have values. Boundaries. A sense of justice, of truth, of what is important to us. If we learn not to explode immediately, but to allow anger to work within us – then it can become an incredible source of strength.
We have the right to be angry. And the responsibility to deal with it consciously.
The 90-second rule – and what happens afterwards
Anger does not last forever. Studies show that emotions such as anger are only active in our bodies for around 90 seconds on average – if we consciously perceive them without passing them on immediately. This means that when we take a deep breath, when we give ourselves this space, everything changes.
Then we decide what we say. How we react. Whether we act as adults – or as an injured child.
We can decide – every day anew
We can blame the outside world: our colleague, our partner, the system. Or we can look inwards and ask ourselves:
- What in me feels ignored, not seen, hurt?
- Where in my life do I feel unfairly treated?
- Where am I still not being honest with myself?
These questions require courage. But they bring us to a place where we can act powerfully, clearly and with real self-worth.
We can be role models – for ourselves and others
Imagine this: We’re sitting in a meeting, being attacked, treated unfairly. Anger is boiling. And yet – or precisely because of this – we say:
“I can feel that I’m very emotional right now. I would like to continue the conversation tomorrow when I can think clearly again.”
What a role model. What an attitude. What strength.
We all want people around us who can deal with their feelings without hurting others. Who don’t allow themselves to be controlled by external circumstances, but take responsibility for their inner life.
Let us be such people ourselves.
Anger shows us where we are heading
Sometimes anger leads us to start a project. To seek a conversation. To finally speak a truth. Anger is not the enemy. Anger is an inner wake-up call: “Hey, there’s something here that needs your attention!”
If we have the courage to listen to her, then we grow. Then we not only change our lives, but also those of the people around us.
Let’s be angry. Conscious. Clear. Transformative.
Let us no longer fight anger – but finally recognize it for what it is:
A signal. A force. An invitation to grow beyond ourselves.
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