Male architect: developer and mediator

The most important relationship in our lives is the one we have with ourselves. If it doesn’t work, everything starts to falter – partnerships, careers, friendships, success. Many men suppress this truth. They function, deliver and play the strong man – while they become increasingly empty inside. The result is broken relationships, exhaustion and warning signals from the body. On the outside, the façade is right, but on the inside there is chaos. Frank Rechsteiner knows what he is talking about. He has lived through ups and downs himself – from successes and crashes to heart attacks – and has developed a radical model from this: the new emotional intelligence for men. Based on the well-known emotional intelligence according to Goleman, Mayer and Salovey, he has consistently developed it further and adapted it to the reality of men today. This book is not a shallow guidebook or a manual for self-optimization. It is a manifesto and a call to break down old role models and take responsibility – not primarily for others, but above all for ourselves. Only if we can look ourselves in the eye will we have stable relationships, develop inner strength and create a life that feels real. We learn to stop pushing our feelings away and use them as a source of energy. We will recognize why crises and conflicts are not coincidences, but a reflection of our unresolved issues. And we discover how to realign ourselves step by step – not as a soft-spoken version of ourselves, but as men who are finally at peace with themselves. This book is a slap in the face for all those who want to continue repressing – and a guide for those who have the courage to really face themselves.