Male architect: developer and mediator

Men in crisis: I develop and place you in leadership roles – present, with integrity and with conscious masculine creative energy.

The two belong together. Because real professional strength only arises when a man is clear, courageous and ready to take on responsibility.

I accompany men safely through existential crises and lead them back to their inner strength – to a place where clarity, attitude and decisions are possible again.

In my podcast Men in Crisis, I talk openly about pain, doubt, disorientation and new beginnings – about what many men feel but rarely say. I give impulses that not only inspire, but also set change in motion. As an experienced recruiter, I specifically open doors for men to leadership roles that really suit them – positions in which they don’t have to function, but can make an impact.

I combine deep personal development with professional career counseling, because growth begins on the inside and must become visible professionally. This combination makes men strong: for themselves, for their lives and for roles in which they lead authentically.

My mission: to accompany
men on their way back to their strength – and to bring them into leadership positions that correspond to their inner truth.
So that they are no longer driven, but consciously take their next, courageous step.

Executive Coaching

Strengthen your emotional intelligence as the basis for clear, authentic leadership – in your team, your family and your vision. Presence, clarity and depth for you as a man in charge.

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Men’s retreats in South Africa

Find yourself in the wild nature of South Africa – far away from everyday life, in a small group of men. An intensive path to honest connection, emotional depth and new strength.

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We are closing the gap

We start with you – the man in the lead. Then we strengthen your team. This creates real connection, trust and performance. And the gap between leadership and employees closes.
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Published on November 24, 2025

Men in crisis: live your power with the courage to be sexually, emotionally and radically real

YOU ARE A MAN
You learned to function, perform and show strength at an early age. Your life looks successful on the outside, but there is emptiness on the inside – you are cut off from yourself.

WELCOME TO THE CRISIS, BROTHER.
This book is neither a guide nor a consolation. It hits you like a slap in the face: honest, unembellished and damn necessary. No more excuses, no more lazy compromises and hiding behind status, work or porn. No more numbing of any kind. Instead, you come face to face with what you have suppressed for so long – the anger that has been festering inside you, the lust and sexuality that you have lost and the longing for connection and closeness that you could no longer admit to yourself.
Frank Rechsteiner knows what he is talking about. He has gone through pain, escape and brokenness himself and has experienced what it means to burn everything that keeps you small. He doesn’t hand you a theory, but walks this path with you because he knows it himself.

THIS BOOK CHALLENGES YOU – YES.
It will shake you up, hurt you, and almost certainly even make you angry. But therein lies its power. Because in the end it leads you back – to yourself, to the man you have always been.
There is no more room for illusions or a cheerful “keep it up”. In the end, all that remains is you and your truth – and the decision as to whether you have the courage to finally live it and be real.

LET’S FUCKING GO!

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Published in December 2025

The new emotional intelligence for men: How to solve our dilemma with relationships (new edition)

The most important relationship in our lives is the one we have with ourselves. If it doesn’t work, everything starts to falter – partnerships, careers, friendships, success. Many men suppress this truth. They function, deliver and play the strong man – while they become increasingly empty inside. The result is broken relationships, exhaustion and warning signals from the body. On the outside, the façade is right, but on the inside there is chaos. Frank Rechsteiner knows what he is talking about. He has lived through ups and downs himself – from successes and crashes to heart attacks – and has developed a radical model from this: the new emotional intelligence for men. Based on the well-known emotional intelligence according to Goleman, Mayer and Salovey, he has consistently developed it further and adapted it to the reality of men today. This book is not a shallow guidebook or a manual for self-optimization. It is a manifesto and a call to break down old role models and take responsibility – not primarily for others, but above all for ourselves. Only if we can look ourselves in the eye will we have stable relationships, develop inner strength and create a life that feels real. We learn to stop pushing our feelings away and use them as a source of energy. We will recognize why crises and conflicts are not coincidences, but a reflection of our unresolved issues. And we discover how to realign ourselves step by step – not as a soft-spoken version of ourselves, but as men who are finally at peace with themselves. This book is a slap in the face for all those who want to continue repressing – and a guide for those who have the courage to really face themselves.
Coming soon
Also available in English!

The new emotional intelligence for men: Developing inner strength with empathy, feeling and a new self-confidence

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What if the decisive factor in modern leadership is not on the outside – but on the inside?

Today, C-level decision-makers are under more pressure than ever: Performance. Change. Responsibility. Expectations.

But real leadership strength does not come from control – it comes from awareness.

The new emotional intelligence is the key to resilient, clear and authentic leadership.

And this is precisely where Frank Rechsteiner comes in.

He helps men in leadership positions to feel themselves again – in order to lead other people better from this inner clarity.

From functioning to feeling.

From leading to connecting.

As a speaker, personality developer and host of the podcast “Can you feel yourself?”, Frank Rechsteiner provides answers to a question that many men at the top rarely ask out loud:

“How am I actually doing myself – really?”

The truth:

Many managers burn out – and burn out.

Emotional distance protects, but it also blocks.

If you don’t feel, you lose your connection – to yourself, to your team, to your purpose.
Frank opens up spaces for honest reflection. For emotional clarity.

For powerful transformation.

Because top performance needs inner stability.

  • Self-leadership as the basis for strong leadership
  • Clarity in communication & decision-making processes
  • Presence instead of perfection
  • Trust instead of control
  • Connection instead of isolation

Frank Rechsteiner works with men who have achieved a lot – but sense that there is still more: Depth. Truthfulness. And a different way of being at the top.

The truth:

Many managers burn out – and burn out.

Emotional distance protects, but it also blocks.

If you don’t feel, you lose your connection – to yourself, to your team, to your purpose.
Frank opens up spaces for honest reflection. For emotional clarity.

For powerful transformation.

For men with responsibility.

For managers who want more than performance.

For leaders who know: Transformation starts with me.

Executive Coaching

Individually tailored to your needs – whether in one-to-one meetings or over several sessions.

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Keynotes & Lectures

Inspiring and practice-oriented impulses that show you and your management team new perspectives.

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Team workshops

Joint development of new emotional intelligence as a team – for sustainable, successful collaboration.

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Leadership transformation

Increase your self-awareness and your impact as a leader at all levels.

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Men in crisis – The men’s podcast with Frank!

Welcome to “Men in crisis – The men’s podcast with Frank!” Here we talk about real issues, honest emotions and the challenges that move us men.

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About me

Frank Rechsteiner is a potential activator and personality developer. With his new emotional intelligence for men, his men’s podcast “Can you feel yourself?” and as a speaker, he sets new standards and provides lasting food for thought.
Driven by personal strokes of fate and his own intensive transformation process, the enthusiasm and activation of the new emotional intelligence for men is a topic close to his heart.

My professional career

Owner of “Frank Rechsteiner” headhunting firm for fast growing IT companies

Managing Director of Camelot ITLab GmbH

Consulting Manager at All for One Systemhaus Midmarket Solution GmbH

Project Manager and BI Product Manager at All for One Systemhaus Midmarket Solution GmbH

My training

Training as a business coach

GSBA Zurich: Master of Science for Finance, Master of Science
University of Wales: Sales and Management
Cape Studies Cap Town: Business English
Industrial clerk, training as an accountant, further training as an industrial business administrator

My publications

Men in crisis: Live your power with the courage to be sexually, emotionally and radically real

Published book

The new emotional intelligence for men: Developing inner strength with empathy, feeling and a new self-confidence

Published book

The new emotional intelligence for men: How to solve our dilemma with relationships (new edition)

Coming soon

Culture-based IT recruiting

Published book

Recruiting Mindset

Published book

Successful IT recruiting despite skills shortage

Published book

Frequently asked questions

What does “new emotional intelligence for men” mean and why is it so important today?
The “new emotional intelligence for men” stands for a more conscious and healthier way of dealing with emotions – beyond old clichés of toughness, aloofness or self-control at all costs. It enables men not only to recognize their feelings, but also to understand them, name them and express them authentically – without feeling weak or vulnerable. In a world where social skills, empathy and self-reflection are becoming increasingly important – whether in a professional context, in partnerships or in one’s own lifestyle – the new emotional intelligence offers a different form of strength: one based on authenticity, connection and inner clarity. It is a key tool for personal growth, successful relationships and a more fulfilling, conscious life.
Who is Frank Rechsteiner's work particularly suitable for?
Frank Rechsteiner’s offers are aimed at men who are ready to face themselves honestly – and to break new ground. Whether you are a leader looking for a clearer inner compass, hoping for more depth and connection in your relationship life or simply feel that “the old” is no longer holding up: Frank’s work invites you to explore – and unfold – your emotional world. It is aimed at men who are ready to question old patterns of thought and behavior, take emotional responsibility for themselves and live their full potential. Whether you are at the very beginning of your inner journey or have already taken many steps, Frank’s work offers you valuable inspiration, guidance and support on your path to greater emotional clarity, authenticity and inner freedom.
What can I expect in the podcast "Men in crisis"?
In the podcast “Men in Crisis”, Frank Rechsteiner talks openly and honestly about inner conflicts, emotional challenges and the often unspoken, sometimes taboo questions of being a man. It’s about closeness, vulnerability, the search for meaning and the courage to really face yourself. The podcast invites you to question old role models and taboos and to take responsibility for your own inner growth. Instead of quick solutions, there are clear words, personal reflections and impulses for self-management. A podcast for men who don’t just want to function, but want to live more consciously and authentically.
How can I work with Frank Rechsteiner or book him as a speaker?
If you would like to enter into a direct exchange with Frank Rechsteiner, there are various ways of working together – individually, authentically and effectively: you can ask Frank for individual coaching, accompanying transformation processes, workshops or lectures – depending on what you need and where you stand. As a speaker, he impresses with his presence, depth and clarity. It’s easy to get in touch: use the contact form on the website or send an email with your request. Together you will find out which format and setting best suits you or your team. What all formats have in common: They touch, challenge – and really help you or your audience move forward.